A change in pressure.
A movement you did not expect.
The moment you realise you would like something different.
I teach rope as a way to notice these things, and respond in a way that deepens connection.
I begin with the person who is here today. We make time to talk about what has brought you, what feels possible and anything that may need care. You do not have to arrive in a particular mood.
We attend to breath, movement, words and pauses. None of these is a substitute for consent. I ask rather than assuming that I know what a response means.
We agree on what we are trying, the boundaries around it and how to pause or stop. Choosing can also mean changing the plan or leaving something for another day.